We have to accept the fact that sooner or later unfortunate situations will befall each and every one of us. How we handle the situations is dictated by our experiences. If we handle our situations smartly, we will have no regret. But it is far more common that we end up doing things that we regret later on down the line. Pushing a good man away is one of the most common mistakes a woman makes. When you realize what you just did, you may feel terrified. Oftentimes it is too late to get him back.
Why did I scare him away in the first place? How do I get my ex to see me in a new light? What is the process of getting him back? If these questions keep popping up in your head, It’s time to sit back and figure out what to do next.
You’re the only one who knows the cause of the breakup. But the most common reasons why people push their future life partners away are very few. One of these reasons may pertain to you. If you know the exact cause, you can start to define the concrete solutions.
Reason#1: I scared him away to avoid making the same mistakes I’ve made with other guys.
If you’ve made mistakes in the past that ended up in a heartbreaking breakup, it is very common that you will put up a wall to protect yourself from future pain. Unfortunately, the man you just pushed away may not have deserved the push. It is not his fault. You put up a wall as a result of some other guy’s mistakes.
Reason#2: I scared him away because the relationship was developing too fast.
You’re not ready to take someone into your life. You feel a lot of pressure when the relationship is growing rapidly. You’re scared and decided to push him away before you get hurt again. Looking back, you realized you just scared a good man away just to save your feelings. What do you do now?
Text messaging is one of the most powerful tools in your arsenal when you are trying to get your ex back. But you must use it correctly or you will risk losing him forever.
If just pick up the phone and call your ex out of the blue, he will probably think that you want something from him. If you send him an email, it is possible that it won’t be read at all. Do you know that the open rate of emails nowadays is only 10%? This makes it look like you don’t want a conversation with him. He may reach a conclusion that you just want closure and move on.
Text messaging has the right amount of ambiguity and curiosity. It makes him wonder why you are contacting them. This curiosity gives you a chance to reconnect and rebuild the relationship.
Before contacting him through text messages, there is a big question that requires your sincere answer.
–What has changed since the breakup that will make your new relationship different if you get back together?
Your answer will likely come along this line:
— I’ve realized my mistakes and will never make them again. I’ll do whatever he wants and never give him a reason to leave. I’ll never avoid getting hurt by pushing him away.
An answer like this proves that you’re not ready to contact your ex. You can’t just text him anything and expect him to start feeling connected to you again, not by a long shot.
Most important of all, you can’t show that you’re needy and willing to please him in every possible way just to get him back. NO!
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