(Condensed from Brad Browning’s bestselling e-book and video series—The Ex Factor Guide)
So you’re finally taking my advice and trying out no contact with your ex. Well, congratulations on making the right decision. If you’ve never heard of the NO CONTACT strategy, read this first. But before you start using the no contact technique by cutting off all kinds of communication with your ex, you need to make sure that you’re not making this one mistake and hurting your chances to reconnect with your ex in the future.
Hey, guys, I am Brad Browning. People call me Breakup Brad because I’ve helped thousands of clients undo their breakups and rediscover happiness in the arms of their ex. If you want to be my next success story, read on. If you need a more comprehensive guide, check out my Complete Program-The Ex Factor Guide. You’ll find several videos where I go in-depth on how to reconnect with your ex, and why No Contact works. Basically, No Contact is about staying as far away from your ex as possible for at least 30 days following your breakup.
But now let’s talk about the number one mistake that ruins No Contact. I see it every day in my work. So here’s the scenario. You and your ex broke up. It wasn’t pretty, but there’s no hard feeling. You didn’t beg or plead for a second chance. Instead you sought out my advice, learned about No Contact, and decided to give it a go. So you put down your phone and sit down waiting for No Contact to be over.
But guess what, you’ve already made the fatal mistake, and your No Contact is jeopardized before it even began. What you and so many others do wrong is treating No Contact like a waiting period. No Contact is not about being passive, silent, and waiting for your ex to come back to you. It’s actually the exact opposite. You need to make plans, set goals, and achieve them. If you spend this time just sitting there, and expect your ex to come running back once the time is up, you’re going to be sorely disappointed. There are a few reasons why action is essential to your long-term plans to win back your ex.
First if you’re sitting there stagnating for a month while your ex is out living their life, you’re going to be at a huge disadvantage when No Contact ends. You know a lot can happen in 30 days. You can start a new and rewarding hobby or you can slide into loneliness and depression. You can set yourself up to win your ex back or you can lose them forever. It’s your choice. Think of it this way, if you haven’t made any changes during this period, then there is no reason for your ex to take you back. You need to show your ex that they’re missing out on the best version of you. And if they decide to take you back, you have way more to offer them than you did before you broke up. Even if they have no idea what you’ve been up to during No Contact, the confidence that you’ll feel from living your best life is going to show itself the first time they see your face again.
Get out there, try new things, and have new experiences. What are some activities your relationship kept you from doing? What are things that you and your ex wanted to do together but never found the time? There are a million things that you can be doing right now. And sitting on the couch isn’t one of them. You don’t need to climb Mount Everest, but you do need to do something new and different with your newfound free time. Setting your mind to do something and taking action will not only make No Contact fly by, it will improve your mood, lift your spirits, and make sure that you have the best chance of getting your ex back when the time comes to break No Contact.
Here are a few more small-scale No Contact mistakes that can hurt your chances. Number one is bad posting. Social media is a great way to subtly communicate things to your ex without breaking No Contact. But make sure you’re careful about how much and what you’re posting. Do not post about fake people and broken promises. This kind of thing might make you feel good on the short-term. But hurting your ex isn’t going to make them want you back. Don’t post 20 photos a day if you’ve never done it in the past. This kind of sudden change gives a hint of desperation and shows your ex how lonely you are now that they’re not in your life. So be mindful about what you’re posting or you might just scare away your ex for good.
Second mistake is not reading the Ex Factor Guide. The Ex Factor Guide is not only the number one ex back program available, it’s your roadmap to a more fulfilled relationship. In the program, I go through every aspect of no contact so you can use your time away from your ex to maximize your chances of reconnecting with them when the time comes. So go read the Ex Factor Guide right now to learn more.
There are legitimate reasons why you might need to contact your ex during this time period. For example, you are parents and need to arrange visitation with your children. But for every legitimate reason there are also other stupid reasons that your brain is going to come up with to try to convince you to text your ex just to get that tiny feeling back. Finding out his favorite band has a new song again is not worth breaking No Contact.
The problem is that you’re so used to texting this person that it’s almost like second nature. If you’re worried that you might slip up, then I recommend writing their phone number down on a piece of paper, putting it somewhere safe and then deleting their contact from your phone. This might feel a bit dramatic, but it does make it more difficult for you to text your ex when you’re feeling low during No Contact.
Alright that just about does it for this little tip. Wish you an exciting and fun-filled period of no contact. I’ll see in the next tip, or you can go watch my VDO.
